Find THE ONE | The Single VISIONARY Pt 1
Dear Friend,
I wanted to deal with the topic of 'how to find your spouse' for a long time. There's alot out there on this topic (and that's great) so I really want to focus on an aspect that has been overlooked. I've noticed that - somewhere between dating and getting married - so many people have buried their visions or changed who they are to fit the marriage. The purpose of this blog is to prevent that from being the case for you 'singletone' out there! This will be in two parts and I have also done a vlog on YOUTUBE
This is just to make sure that you are COVERED on this topic! Haha! Here goes...
Let's start with FINDING YOUR PURPOSE
Being single is the perfect time to explore the vision that God places within your heart. It’s great to have a strong sense of self before getting into a relationship. This way you’re not pulled into various directions and find yourself feeling discouraged further on down the line.
Know Your Gifts
What are your passions? What are the things that inspire you? What do you want to achieve before you leave this planet? The answer to these questions is the perfect place to focus. Make time to build on these things. The bible says that when Boaz found Ruth she was ‘gleaning in the fields.’ This means that she was focused on her purpose. When I was single, there were times when I was so focused on ‘finding a husband’ that I would lose focus of the visions that God had placed in my heart. If I’m being super honest, my husband came when I started to focus on the things that I loved.
Be available but don’t be ‘available’
There’s a difference between available and ‘available.’ To be ‘available’ is desperate and waiting around for someone to come along. I’m telling you that the lovely males out there can smell ‘desperate’ a mile off.
The other available is the perfect type. It’s when you smile and are introduced to people outside your ‘circle.’ It’s when you’re willing to be open minded to the possibility of of dating outside your church, social connections and culture.
It’s also makes it easier to set boundaries in your relationship. It also ensures that your visions continue to thrive as you transition into marriage.
NEVER hide your vision from the person you’re dating
If your plan is to be married for life then there is most certainly a point where those dreams, passions, visions will come up. To save yourself time, regret and heartache be completely open about your vision from the start. Dating is about making sure you’re compatible for the long-haul and the only way to know that is if you are compatible is to be completely honest. Time is of the essence when it comes to matters of the heart. You don’t want to find out later on that your partner doesn’t want you to fulfil those things that your heart desires. So be clear darlings! Haha!
(Part two available now)
Yours Sincerely,
Sal
