It’s taken me a while to write because, in truth, I’ve been having writer’s block. I want to share my experiences in an informative, humorous and encouraging way and it honestly takes time. So I’ve finally managed to put together something worthy of sharing. Today, I want to talk about my experiences during pregnancy and the things that I wish that someone had told me.
"Don’t expect everybody to be as ecstatic as you." - YSS
Now I’m fully aware that every pregnancy is different but there are a few fundamental things that I wish someone had told me before having kids.
- Morning sickness; really should have another name because the phrase ‘morning’ is misleading. When I was pregnant I had ‘morning sickness’ 24/7 - no time of day was off limits. The really weird thing was, it would subside if I would have breakfast in the mornings and have regular (oil free/healthy) snacks.
- Pregnancy can be experienced in a thousand different ways. The advice from media, friends, family and even physicians can be overwhelming. This unique experience belongs to the mother so just ride the wave and take every piece of advice lightly.
- Not all babies come as quickly as the babies on ‘one born every minute.’
- Eat whatever you like but bear in mind that baby will be just fine if you eat normal portions of food. The only case whereby there will be cause for concern is hyperemesis gravidarum, which most mothers don’t have. If you have a healthy appetite then that’s cool but bear in mind that you don’t need to ‘eat for two.’
- Most babies don’t come on their due date. Try to bear this in mind when planning events etc around baby’s due date.
- Don’t expect everybody to be as ecstatic as you. Colleagues, family and even spouses may take a little time to adjust to the pregnancy. All transitions can have bumpy aspects and if you are finding that those around you aren’t as ecstatic just let the doctor know and they’ll help you work through it.
- Trust your instincts. If you aren’t sure about some of your experiences just check with the doctor. There isn’t a question that is too silly. Don’t worry about physicians reaction to your concerns - make sure baby’s welfare is priority.
- Maximise all your free time and family time and enjoy every moment before the transition into motherhood. Enjoy yourself. Have date night. Meet up with friends before making baby priority for at least first 4-6 months post partum.
- I know those youtube videos look scary but not every labour is the same. Take your time to learn about your unique experience and trust the doctors/midwives to walk you through it.
- You’re not the only one who doesn’t know what you’re doing. Most mothers don’t! Get used to the feeling of uncertainty because it comes and goes throughout the course of motherhood.
- Remember why you did it. (Minus those who didn’t plan this) Motherhood is a wonderful miracle and can bring a tremendous amount of purpose and drive to your life. Think back to the times when you would wonder whether you would become a great mother. Think about the bright future that you will be able to invest in. These are exciting times!
I can’t wait to share more on this beautiful topic and truly hope that you are inspired and encouraged.